#and i will be reblogging this soon

[justanisabelakinnie]

Furthermore if you support bi lesbians because you think everyone is a little bit bi or can make “exceptions” or for partners who come out as trans men, then you are basically saying that you think lesbians can like men even a little, somewhere deep down(99:1 attraction to women:men is still bi, luvs), that trans men aren’t men and thus lesbians can be attracted to them(we cannot), and that lesbians can/will ultimately be in relationships with men and still call themselves lesbians, despite that erasing real lesbians and putting them in danger. Not to mention you’re also disrespecting and invalidating trans men while also using their identity as a gotcha to trap lesbians in relationships with men.

If you have sec with, date, and pursue men while calling yourself a lesbian despite knowing damn well that you like men or say things like “lesbians fuck men all the time”, then you are a lesbophobe whose actions encourage men to correctively rape/sexually assault lesbians whether you want to admit it or not.

If you support bi lesbians then you support lesbians being invalidated and told they are into men in an already patriarchal society, which is Bullshit with a capital B.

There is no excuse. If you are a bi/mspec lesbian supporter, then get the hell out of my space. On here we support REAL actual lesbians, so fuck off.

If you support “bisexual lesbians”, it would follow that you support the term “bihet”. Which is an extremely biphobic term used against them to erase their identity. Bisexual people are bisexual, not pseudo-gays or half straights.The bi community has been fighting these biphobic concepts for decades and you are throwing away their activism.  If you support bisexual lesbians because you think lesbian needs an addon to include nonbinary people, then you assume the default state of lesbian (or any sexuality) is to exclude nonbinary people. Which is completely ahistorical and wrong. All sexualities potentially include nonbinary people and its encouraging transphobia to claim otherwise. (I.e. It’s valid to say you would never date a nonbinary person! Most lesbians wouldn’t date nb ppl and its not transphobic at all to say that! /s)

If you support bisexual lesbians because of the split attraction model, believing people can be bisexual and homoromantic or whatever else, you are encouraging internalized homophobia and biphobia. The SAM is NOT for people who aren’t asexual or aromantic. It’s extremely different to claim you dont feel romantic attraction but still would like to have sex, and to claim that you would have sex with some genders and only date others.  If you support bisexual lesbians because bi women in the past were mistakenly called lesbians, again you are ignoring decades of bi activism that set out to establish bi people are not half gay or half straight. They are bisexual. You are promoting bi erasure and the theft of the entire lesbian identity, hurting both communities.

And finally, if you support bisexual lesbians because it doesn’t “hurt” anyone and words dont have to mean things and people should be able to use whatever words make them feel special regardless of any definition then… I don’t even know what to say to you. We have these labels to describe our experiences for a reason and I don’t know how to communicate to you why they are important. Redefining our identities to obscurity and leaving us with no language to talk about our experiences absolutely does hurt us. Learn a little fucking empathy. 

[chloesimaginationthings]

Michael doesn’t like his father in any FNAF universe..

[inkskinned]

so while i was writing the book, i became violently suicidal.

this was mostly due to the fact that i had a very bad reaction to some meds and my brain stopped producing any serotonin. also i was in the last semester of grad school where it's actually illegal to feel anything but dread. so it wasn't going well.

somewhere in the fog of it i became aware i needed help. nobody was taking clients or my insurance. i didn't want to do inpatient care - it wasn't right for my needs. there's not really an "in between" stage between "inpatient" and "no care," but i was trying to do the right thing. i was trying to activate the chain of command that was my emergency plan. i knew i needed help now.

i used betterhelp.

i know, i know. i'm a straight-A student and so smart and so clever, how could i ever use something so blatantly bad. to be honest with you, i didn't feel particularly keen on it from the getgo - things that seem too good to be true usually are. also, if something online is free, the price is usually your privacy.

the thing is that there was kind of a global pandemic happening at the time and i worked 5 jobs alongside of being a fulltime student and also like writing a book on the side. it is a miracle that i even thought about getting help. i would love to tell you i had the mental wherewithal to like, process whether this was the right choice for me. mostly i was desperate. i was so suicidal that i was trying to find a reason to stay inside of fortune cookies. i was the kind of suicidal that looks like splatterpaint. i hadn't been that bad in an entire decade.

they took my data. i gave them it freely. somewhere out there, they have a dossier on me. on everything i survived. my story in little datapoints, scattergraphed beautifully.

the first woman told me that really i should be grateful, because (and this is a direct quote): "at least you're not anne frank." i said that i felt that statement was antisemitic, as anne frank's life and experience shouldn't be compared to like, a nonbinary lesbian in western massachusetts. the therapist said that i should try to use lucid dreaming to try to picture myself in an actually scary situation, like running from nazis.

i applied for another therapist. i was willing to accept the possibility that there was a bad apple in the bunch. the next therapist and i even laughed about how inappropriate that statement was. and then, in our next session: the new therapist said if i was struggling with body image issues, i should just work harder on my appearance. she spent 3 sessions in a row talking about how she was grieving, and made me memorize facts about her grandmother so "she can live on through my clients."

i am a three's-a-charm kind of person. okay, so what if the last person made me uncomfortable. i figured it was just a misunderstanding of priorities - she had felt she was sharing with me, i had felt like i had to take care of her. i applied for another therapist.

the last woman asked me to help her pray. she bowed her head. i stared at her, frozen, while she said: lord, i beg you: cure her. take the pain of being gay away from her.

i spent somewhere between 2.5 and 3 months on betterhelp. in that whole time, i was not getting the professional help i so desperately needed, even though i was fucking trying.

in the end, i survived this because i finally could get off the meds that were literally killing me. a request for a real therapist finally went through. i survived because my friends saved my life. because nick let me sob myself dry in his arms. because maddie took the razors out of my room when i asked them to. because grace slept over in my bed for like 3 weeks in a row since nobody trusted me not to hurt myself when i was alone. i survived because i got fucking lucky. because even when i was desperately suicidal, i was too old and too self-aware to take "you need to be prettier" as good advice.

the thing is that there's a 19 year old me who isn't like that. who would have heard "just think about how grateful you should be" and said - oh, i see. i would have assumed that is what it means to be in therapy: the same thing my abusers used to tell me. that i am just pretending and lazy. that i am ugly and unworthy.

betterhelp positioned itself to take advantage of an incredibly vulnerable community. it preys on desperation. it knows it is serving people who are not doing well mentally. it saw that there is a huge need for real, immediate, compassionate mental health care: and then it fucking takes your money and privacy.

i still get their ads on instagram. last night i watched as a woman in a pool pretends to talk to a different woman. they discuss her anxiety.

there's a 19 year old version of me, and she didn't survive this. she was too tired, and drowning. i almost fucking died. this thing almost fucking killed me.

in the ad, the woman playing the therapist takes a note on a clipboard and then nods once, sagely.

i have to admit it's a pretty scene. the steam and light coming off the pool water lands on the actresses. like this, it almost looks baptismal, holy.

[s0up1ta]

i hate them so much

[adhdandcomics]

joint pain will fully have you standing around like johnny bravo

[a-s-levynn]

Hey gang!

There is a new blog that plans to build an archive exclusievely for unmasked Sleep Token, seemingly focused on past projects.

There is no content on it as of yet but they have put their initial introduction post under the main tags.

I know i usually do not comment or report on things like this but, if there is one thing i do not like, is open public discussion of unmasked Sleep Token. I don't care what people do in private chats and messages, it is private after all, but i do not like it when it's put onto public spaces.

As of now, it is only speculation, but if they keep up that type of tagging, unmasked pictures and information might appear under the main tags. Which is tragic. Tumblr was one of the last places, where you could avoid this fairly easily.

If you wish to avoid, block: @/thesleeparchive

We have people already that actually respectfully share old stuff without compromising the anonymity of the collective, as it should be. We do not need a public collection, going directly against the wishes of the guys, who privated or deleted pretty much all their social media presence for the sake of being left in peace.

Publicly posting their faces, names and past projects, directly connecting them to Sleep Token is not the respectful approach as some might think it is.

[imaginariumwanderer]

Got u some snacks @cryptidmickle

[royalarchivist]

Cellbit: In- in Spanish, there is "papi," papi also works like "daddy."

Phil: Ahhh. [Laughs]

Baghera: Ah, papi!

Foolish: [High-pitched voice] Papi!

Carre: Ay, papi chulo! 😩🔥

[Everyone in the call loses it]

Cellbit: I knew it- I knew it–! I was just waiting, I was just waiting! I was- I was just waiting for it.

Phil: I- I kind of knew that was gonna happen, I dunno why.

[chronicowboy]

— richard siken (for @danielsousa <3)

[rgbjitter]

BIG RONS!!!!

IM FINALLY DONE WITH TEH BIG RONS MODEL :D

first time using the line art modifier on a model so have a lineless version:

[kyouka-supremacy]

[14dayswithyou]

💖 Day 3 Updates! 💖

If you haven't already joined da 14DWY Discord, here are all of the Day 3 screenshots I've shared over the past months!

⇢ More under the cut!!

💖 General updates! 💖

(Some updates here are a continuation of this post!)

Translations have been put on hold until I push out more content for the game.

Most of the spites have received a few minor adjustments to (hopefully) fix the art inconsistency issue.

There will be another woohoo scene in Day 3... The 14 Nights With You DLC is slowly turning into a reality.....

You will be able to invite the cast to your apartment (or visit a few of them!) to hang out one-on-one 💗

I created a new and improved "relationship screen"! Now you can see the status and affinity meter of the cast more clearly.

To all of the 2017 Ren enjoyers… I see you I hear you I feel you 💕 Enjoy having the option to choose Ren's hair length now hehe

I changed up some of the UI so that the overall theme is more consistent.

There's now a new Dead End, a Fox Ren easter egg, and updated CG art to match Ren's hairstyle!

Still no ETA yet on when the beta version will be released to the public >.< But Discord "Server Boosters" currently have access to the beta build!

💖 Day 3 Beta Build! 💖

As a way to show my gratitude towards those who choose to boost the 14DWY server, I've decided to release the Day 3 beta build for them to test out! Because of them, we're able to have over 200 emote slots, a custom banner, and a vanity link!! I appreciate y'all very much!

I also don't have a specific date in mind, but once I'm satisfied with all of the feedback + bug fixes, I'll release Day 3 for everyone else to play. So no need to boost the server!! Feel free to wait until I release it to the public (which should be soon >:3).

Thank you all again for your endless patience and support!! ♡

[the-kipsabian]

saw a take so fucking rancid on twitter i almost deleted the entire app from my phone jesus fucking christ

first of all ao3 is an archive site. this is like going to the library and saying "oh i dont like this" on every piece of media you find that you dislike and thinking they should be stamped with some sort of a marker just cause you didnt like it

you can always click back and leave. fic writers owe you nothing to explain themselves and their creations. if they have mistagged or miscategorized fics, then i understand, however there are report tools for that instead of yelling at the artist tbh

im not saying free works arent necessarily above criticism. but this is just. fucking wild. its common courtesy to just enjoy stuff (or fucking leave if you dont, the back button is free) and if the artist specifically asks for critiques, then give one - constructive that is, shitting all over someones work is not proper criticism, mind you

i just find it fucking wild people are treating art and archive sites as social media these days like this and everything needs to be policed and ~catered to the algorithm~ like. no. ao3 doesnt have an algorithm. you should be able to fucking tell what you like and what you dont like and steer away from that kind of content and let people fucking be with their art. they dont owe you anything (except trigger warnings i'd argue, but i know some people disagree with that as well for some reason), and imagine how much more energy you'd have if you only engaged with things you liked and spent time looking at instead of going to places where you dont enjoy yourself. let alone spending time telling other people you dont enjoy what they enjoy. what a fucking life

[nixiecat]

wearing the pretty new collar that mommy gave me cause I'm a good girl who does what I'm told~

thanks @antifatemptress <3

check reblogs for pics~

[cloudysfluffs]

kiss kiss!!!! <33333

~kink/nsfw blogs dni please!!!~

[dailymistarwhyte]

day 83